[Best Pick] The Psychology of Dirty Talk

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Have you ever been turned on by the idea of a partner talking “dirty” to you? If so, you’re not alone. It turns out that dirty talk is an extraordinarily popular sexual interest. Dirty talk fantasies were common across gender—but women were actually the most likely to fantasize about it—and fantasize about it often:

So what do people find so appealing about dirty talk? And why do women tend to fantasize about it the most? Follow us in today’s Best Pick. 

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1. Dirty talk fantasies were associated with having more fantasies about a partner who moans or screams loudly. So part of the appeal likely has to do with the fact that some people just inherently find sounds to be erotically appealing.

2. Dirty talk fantasies were associated with more BDSM fantasies of every type—bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism. Dirty talk often plays a role in BDSM scenarios, and women reported more BDSM fantasies in general than did men, so perhaps this at least partly explains why women had the most frequent dirty talk fantasies.

3. Dirty talk fantasies were associated with several sex-seeking personality traits: erotophilia, sociosexuality, and sexual sensation seeking. Put another way, those who had more positive attitudes toward sex, saw sex and emotion as separable, and enjoyed more thrilling and adventuresome sexual encounters in general reported more interest in dirty talk.

4. People who were more extraverted had more fantasies about dirty talk—and more fantasies about a partner moaning and screaming. In other words, those who are more sociable and outgoing seem to find sounds during sex to be more erotically appealing, whereas introverts seem to find quiet sex more arousing.

People high in the trait of openness to experience and those who reported having active imaginations reported more dirty talk fantasies. So interest in dirty talk might sometimes stem from simply being someone who fantasizes a lot and/or is open to trying new things in general.

Source: Psychology Today


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