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Parents often dream of having a good child who always listens and does as he is told. But when it does, will it mean that we have no reason to worry about the ‘good’ child? Well, surprisingly we do!
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Most parents will agree that a good child is one who does everything that’s expected of him and never troubles anyone. But there is a harsher reality to a good child. An overload of ‘virtues’ in a child make her vulnerable to the following:
- Being bullied: A good child always does what she is told to, and never acts up or talks back. She doesn’t assert herself as she is always praised and appreciated for her ______ (1 word missing) nature. However, to others, the good child may come across as someone who is submissive. This can make her an easy target of bullies. In adolescence and adulthood, she can even be exploited in an abusive and controlling relationship, as her compliant and passive nature wouldn’t allow her to take a firm stand.
- Feeling unhappy and unfulfilled: The ‘good’ child seems to feel happy when praised by her parents for her cooperative nature. Unfortunately, the child behaves in a ‘good’ manner to please her parents. This practice begins during childhood and the child is compelled to maintain the act as she grows older. Even during the preteen and early teenage years, when other children begin to ________ (1 word missing) their independence, the ‘good’ child remains passive for she fears displeasing his parents. Consequently, she may become resentful and disgruntled.
- Decrease in emotional resilience: Imagine how it would be if you had to suppress your feelings, even when upset. You would feel emotionally drained, which can affect your life both within and outside the home. A ‘good’ child may also feel the same way, if not worse. She may feel angry because she cannot be her natural self and express her true feelings. She also experiences a sense of sadness because she is helpless in these situations. When this state of sadness becomes overwhelming, it can even ________ (2 words missing) depression, thus affecting her mental well-being.
- Missing out on adolescent milestones and experiences: Often, at school, teachers encourage compliant behaviour from a child. As a result, the child misses out on essential experiences that spontaneous behaviour encourages. Also, after a period, other children begin resenting a good child as she is always praised for her perfect behaviour. She then feels lonely and rejected. She therefore misses out on significant adolescent milestones and experiences like friendship, leaving her even more unhappy, dissatisfied and bitter.
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