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Before today’s listening, let’s check the answers to the last episode.
When you are in a loving relationship, it is very likely that you have quarrels with your partner. Do you feel troubled because you don’t know how t deal with your partner’s anger? If you want to know more, just follow us in today’s [Listening].
Click the button at the bottom of the screen to play the audio. Please fill in the blanks and leave your answers in the comment. The answers will be revealed in the next episode.
You’re closest to the fire and hurt most often, even though it’s not about you. Try these ways to ______ (1 word missing) the effects of your partner’s anger on both of you.
STEP 1: Pay attention, listen, and try to understand – but not to excuse – your partner’s problem. Learn what you can about the source of the anger. This will also help to defuse an escalation.
STEP 2: Ask yourself how you’ve handled your partner’s anger in the past. Did you hide, become combative, habitually deny, or fearfully run? Change your response to interrupt your partner’s patterns.
STEP 3: Protect your ______ (1 word missing) in all matters, without indulging the urge to be defensive or retaliatory. Talk to friends or a trusted professional to gauge whether you are in danger. If you ever feel your safety is threatened, leave immediately.
STEP 4: Define rules of engagement: no harsh or insulting statements, no blaming, and no discussion until the partner can be calm.
STEP 5: Breathe slowly without saying anything. _______ (3 words missing) but relax, and remind yourself that this is not about you.
STEP 6: Acknowledge verbally that you see they are angry, without necessarily needing to understand or agree. They have a right to their feelings, as long as they are not threatening you.
That’s all for today’s [Listening]!
Do you have any other better ways to deal with a partner’s anger? Share with us in the comments down below. 😘
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