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“She is totally selfish!”
“He never gets it!”
“He’s so obsessive and picky, he even likes his jeans ironed!”
“She always believes her opinion is the only one that counts!”
It seems everywhere we turn, we see and hear about miserable people and their unhappiness stems largely from what they feel is missing in their intimate relationships. Their frequent toxic thinking silently kills their relationship. Have you ever noticed your toxic thought pattern about your partner?
Here are some very common toxic thought patterns in our relationship. Check out and try to avoid them.
1. The All-or-Nothing Trap
You see your partner as either always doing the wrong thing, or never doing the right thing. (“He always has to be right!”)
2. Catastrophic Conclusions
One partner exaggerates negative actions and events concerning the other partner. (“She bounced that check and now we are definitely heading to the poor house!”)
3. The “Should” Bomb
One partner assumes the other will meet one or more of his or her needs—just because he or she should know that need. (“You should know how much I hate my job, even though I tell everyone what a great opportunity it is.”)
4. Label Slinging
You unfairly, and negatively, label your partner and lose sight of his or her positive qualities. (“You are so lazy!”)
5. The Blame Game
You unfairly, and irrationally, blame your partner for relationship issues, or bigger issues. (“My life only sucks because of you!”)
6. Emotional Short Circuits
Emotional short circuits occur when one partner becomes convinced that his or her partner’s emotions can’t be “handled. (“No one can possibly ever reason with her!”)
7. Overactive Imagination
In this case, you reach negative conclusions about your partner that are not based in reality. (“She’s so preoccupied lately; she must be having an affair.”)
8. Head Game Gamble
You try to outsmart your partner by erroneously assuming he or she has certain motives. (“He’s only being nice to me because he wants to play golf this weekend.”)
9. Disillusionment Doom
This occurs when partners focus on idealized expectations of their partners that are rooted in the past. (“All he does now is worry about his job; he is just like all the other guys who never cared one bit about my needs.”)
Source: psychology today
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Do you have those toxic thought patterns in your relationship? What’s your solution to it?
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