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يقوم الناس بأشياء غبية ومجنونة عندما يكونون في حالة حب ، وبعضهم يتحدث بصوت عالٍ جدًا عن علاقاتهم ومشاعرهم بينما لا يكون الآخرون كذلك
في هذا العالم الحديث من عالمنا ، من الشائع جدًا أن نشارك ما يحدث في حياتنا اليومية في منصات وسائط التواصل الاجتماعي المختلفة ، وحالة العلاقة ليست استثناءً

.عندما رأيت أن هذا الموضوع يتجه على تويتر ، كان شعوري معقدًا

أجريت محادثة في الماضي ، حيث دفعني تعليق بريء إلى الجنون. كنا نتحدث عن تناول مشروب بعد العمل. غالبية زملائي كانوا يحاولون إيجاد عذر لتخطي ذلك. حاول بقيتنا إقناعهم ، أنه سيكون متعة ، ويجب علينا. لقد توصلوا إلى ذرائع بالحاجة إلى العودة إلى المنزل لأنهم وعدوا بها لشريكهم ، وأنهم يحتاجون إلى طهي العشاء ، والقيام ببعض الحدائق ، وما إلى ذلك. كنت أرتجف رأسي في الكفر في سوء نوعية الأعذار أكثر من اختياراتهم

:بادر شخص ما

“…آه ، نعم ، بالتأكيد ، لم تحصل عليه ، لأنك واحد ”

.بدا الأمر كأنني عازبة يعني أيضًا أن لدي قدرات عقلية محدودة وربما حتى تلف في الدماغ. كأنني شخص لم يحصل على مفهوم العلاقة

.هذه الجملة بدأت تزعجني كثيرا
وأدركت السبب أيضا. إذا كنت في علاقة ، فأنت تعامل بطريقة مختلفة – كما لو كنت في صف عالٍ أو شيء ما. يتم التعامل مع الأشخاص غير المتزوجين على أنهم أقل شأنا

As if being with someone would actually make you a more quality version of yourself, and different rules apply.

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When you are single, you should aim to be in a relationship

Being single is not easy. It can be very difficult in terms of its mental, emotional and physical aspects. I am not happily single, I don’t generally enjoy it, I miss being in a relationship, I miss that I cannot share my days and nights with someone. I hate sleeping alone, I hate waking up alone. I hate not having sex, and I hate that my libido is gone and because of that I don’t even miss sex.

I personally want a relationship. It’s not my life goal, but I’d like it. I am disappointed that I am single, but so far I didn’t manage to change it. Being in a relationship is great if the relationship is good. But I know quite a few single people who don’t want or need a relationship. They like being single, they are single by choice — such horror, right?

Being in a relationship is not an upgraded version of being single, it doesn’t mean that you get automatically better by becoming a girlfriend or boyfriend of someone. In fact, in lots of the cases, people tend to get a lot lazier and more complacent in a relationship — they stop working on themselves, they stop chasing their dreams, they prioritise their couple goals over their own personal goals. I’M not saying that this is always the case, I’m saying it happens. But I am not advocating for singlehood. I am advocating for live-and-let-live and mind-your-own-business.

What if we turned this concept around and all of a sudden, we started to consider singlehood to be the “better option”? Would we want to convince every couple to break up, and feel sorry for them not being single?

When you are single you should be working on becoming a better version of yourself

If you are in a relationship you need to work hard on the relationship, setting common goals, making the right decisions, spicing up things so that the novelty shouldn’t die between the two of you. And endless list about communication, honesty, novelty, intimacy…

When you are single, you are supposed to become a better version of yourself, to have the right kind of vibes. They say that you attract what you are and if you become a better version of yourself then it will all happen effortlessly. This is just so degrading to single people. It’s the same kind of thinking that you can see in women’s magazines: one article is talking about accepting yourself as you are, the other is about losing 10 pounds in 3 days.

I am the current version of myself and I am loveable. I did my soul searching, I did my self-reflection, I know exactly where I came from and how much I improved. It doesn’t mean that I will stop working on myself, but I am doing it for me and not for someone else. So, stop telling me that I need to get even better to be loved because I am good enough!

It doesn’t matter if you are single or if you are in a relationship — by chance or by choice. Your relationship status doesn’t define you. Your partner doesn’t necessarily make you better. Your lack of partner doesn’t make you inferior.

You are entitled to your feelings, desires, quirks and your choices in general.

Your relationship status shouldn’t change anyone’s opinion about you. It is your business, and yours only. Your body, your life, your choices, your responsibility. And those who want to judge will judge you anyway.

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